It’s “the place are you now?” month at Ask a Supervisor, and all December I’m working updates from individuals who had their letters right here answered prior to now.
There will probably be extra posts than ordinary this week, so hold checking again all through the day.
It’s arduous to imagine it’s been almost eight months since I wrote that letter. And what an eight months it has been – particularly for the ex-boss!
Happily, blocking her appeared to do the trick, and I haven’t heard one other phrase about her insane request for me to pay two months of HER cellphone invoice. In fact, I’ve blocked her all over the place possible, however I additionally assume somebody lastly satisfied her she had no leg to face on. However I additionally discovered that MONEY (or lack thereof) might have been the rationale she was pushing me to pay the invoice.
I made a decision to succeed in out to the 2 former workers that I discussed had left to begin their very own enterprise proper earlier than I used to be employed. And boy, did I get a LOT of information. We had shockingly comparable tales concerning the stage of loopy with the ex-boss, and that was useful to me in recovering from the toxicity and guilt about what occurred after I left (and sure, I did search remedy about it!) I do know lots of people thought I used to be nuts for staying for 2 years, however these two guys? One was there for ten years and the opposite for 12!!
Most curiously, I discovered that they had provided to purchase the enterprise from her after they left. They provided her a very reasonable value, and the purchasers would have transferred to their new firm (given they have been doing all of the work for them anyway, it made whole sense). The ex-boss was pushing 65, so it was affordable she would possibly need to retire. Per her ordinary MO, she reacted with emotion as a substitute of pondering it by means of, bought fully offended and fired them on the spot. Inside just a few hours, she re-hired them understanding she wanted them to remain out their ultimate weeks so she might get her act collectively (which included hiring me). After they ultimately left, three purchasers determined to go together with them to their new enterprise. Over the course of the 2 years I labored there, two extra bought fed up and left for his or her firm as effectively. They then had 5 of the unique shopper checklist.
Quick ahead to a month after I give up. What I used to be positive would occur had occurred. On the day I left, the corporate nonetheless had 12 purchasers. Simply 4 weeks later, they have been all the way down to THREE. Two of the 12 left as quickly as they heard I had give up. Six extra left inside a month and went to the corporate of the 2 former workers – the identical workers who had tried to purchase her out. The ex-boss might have been paid and retired peacefully. As a substitute, she let her satisfaction prevail, and two years later, she had misplaced 11 purchasers to their firm anyway – they usually didn’t need to pay her a dime. She’s apparently needed to get temp jobs as a result of she isn’t making sufficient to stay on with simply three purchasers. It’s actually unhappy.
The one factor I’ve heard from her (type of?) was a few month in the past. She mailed our firm a field of cookies with a be aware wishing us “effectively in your future endeavors.” Initially, WEIRD given there’s now not any affiliation between our two firms, however even MORE bizarre – our workers work remotely, and she or he is aware of that. How was it speculated to work with this field of cookies? Had been we speculated to mail every worker a cookie? My boss ended up giving them to her associate. A few weeks later, ex-boss texted my boss to ask if she had gotten the cookies. Since my boss didn’t instantly textual content to GUSH with appreciation over a random field of cookies, ex-boss apparently assumed I hadn’t let anybody know they have been acquired (as a result of I’m a horrible particular person).
There are actually lots of of loopy tales I would like to jot down down from my time there. I as soon as talked about I’d by no means been to New York. Ex-boss out of the blue determined we have been going TOGETHER for a weekend (on the peak of the pandemic, would possibly I add), that she was paying for it and we might be staying with some good friend of hers that I didn’t even know. I declined the provide (a number of occasions). She stated she understood however known as me every week later to rant how upset and damage she was that “you don’t need to go to New York with me!!!” Or the time I went to her home to assist her repair a pc difficulty – whereas she stayed in her bed room napping!
BUT! I made it out alive! My hair is rising again. I’m past comfortable at my new firm, love my boss and associates and even bought a promotion that begins in January! And with out that loopy job, I by no means would have met my present boss. So a minimum of there’s a silver lining!