Wednesday, October 4, 2023
HomeWorking MomIf you do not know the place you're going...

If you do not know the place you’re going…


After I was youthful, I used to be very a lot a ‘float’ particular person. I knew I needed to do sure issues like: Study Spanish, reside abroad, or be a author. Nevertheless I by no means thought an excessive amount of about why I needed to them, or what my finish aim was.

‘Life is concerning the journey, not the vacation spot’, was the fixed thought behind my thoughts.

Whereas that also stands true, being older and wiser has made me notice that the vacation spot is as necessary because the journey.

As I become older I notice extra what I need to ‘be’ moderately than what I need to ‘do’. And that if you wish to ‘be’ one thing, you’ve received to obviously outline it after which work in the direction of it.

Within the strategy of figuring out what I need to ‘be’, I typically go spherical in circles. I’ve been working with a coach for the final yr or so and he or she has helped me tremendously in defining tangible objectives for myself that can assist me attain my vacation spot.

My long run why is to have time freedom and monetary independence in order that I will be the grasp of my time and design my life on my phrases.

Every time I felt prefer it was an excessive amount of work, I reminded myself of my ‘why’ and it received me on monitor once more.

  • Accountability is essential: I hit lots of my milestones final yr not solely as a result of I set deadlines, however as a result of I invested in somebody to carry me accountable. Realizing that I needed to replace somebody on my progress gave me that additional push to simply get it executed, particularly when it felt exhausting or when time was brief.

    • I launched my e-newsletter.

    • I wrote a submit each week for 70 weeks!

    • I wrote, designed and launched free assets.

    • I constructed a neighborhood of 300+ wonderful working mums, seeking to higher their careers and be higher mums.

    • I launched an e-mail course.

    • I launched the primary cohort of a web-based course.

All whereas having a full time job and small children.

  • Have a transparent roadmap: Should you don’t have a path in the direction of your objectives, together with clear checkpoints to cease, consider, and recalibrate, you might be unlikely to maneuver ahead. And, what I’m realizing now could be that you need to be ruthless about shifting ahead in your path. We’re time poor and exhausted, you actually need to have laser focus to maneuver the needle.

  • Saying no is a talent to study: Saying no to one thing, is saying sure to one thing else. Saying no to dinner with a good friend, is saying sure to a rejuvenating yoga class or writing my e-newsletter. Each determination is a sacrifice and studying to say no is a talent.

  • Regardless of all of your efforts, all issues gained’t go to plan: Though I hit many milestones, I didn’t hit all of them. And that’s simply the unpredictable nature of attempting to construct one thing. There is no such thing as a one components for fulfillment, and everybody’s journey is totally different.

  • It’s okay to grieve about what you haven’t achieved: I’ve felt fairly disheartened over not hitting all my milestones. It’s okay to wallow in that for some time earlier than you get again on monitor.

  • The one actual studying comes from doing: I have to’ve executed at the very least 10 programs within the final yr, learn hundreds of articles, and joined too many studying communities. Reality is, you study nothing by studying or attending programs in the event you don’t put what you study into motion.

    For instance, you possibly can learn learn how to begin a e-newsletter and watch a module on learn how to do it, nonetheless except you truly do it your self, you actually don’t notice all of the work that goes into getting it off the bottom.

  • Your well-being is as necessary as your objectives: In case you are not feeling nice, how are you going to create something nice? Time to rejuvenate is as necessary as attaining your objectives. In truth they’re mutually dependent.

  • Your vacation spot can change! That is crucial factor I’ve discovered. You could outline one thing for your self, after which realise on the best way that it’s not for you, or it’s not the best time. Nothing is about in stone, and you may all the time change course. However you continue to have to have a course that takes you someplace you need to go!

As we come in the direction of the top of one other yr, I’m reflecting on all the above and dealing on defining my roadmap for 2023. I often have an aversion to ‘aim setting’ actions or workouts. They’re exhausting to do, require numerous self-discipline and aren’t enjoyable. However, I do know no different option to progress. So right here I’m speaking about aim setting instruments.

Listed here are some instruments I’m taking a look at to assist me plan my 2023:

The YearCompass: YearCompass is a free booklet that helps you mirror on the yr and plan the subsequent one. With a set of rigorously chosen questions and workouts, YearCompass helps you uncover your personal patterns and design the perfect yr for your self. Study out of your errors, have fun your victories, and set out a path you need to stroll on. All you want is a quiet few hours and this booklet. You possibly can test it out right here. (Sure, this textual content is copied from their web site)

A information to planning forward in occasions of uncertainty: My coach has an incredible template that can information your considering to plan your yr by serving to you nail three pillars:

Readability about what you need

Self perception that it’s doable

A concrete plan that you just flip to motion

You don’t need to need to be an entrepreneur to do that. You possibly can test it out right here.

In case you need her to information you thru it, my coach is having a Imaginative and prescient & Planning session on January 9, 2023 which you could learn extra about and join right here. I might be doing this session together with her subsequent week, in case any of you need suggestions on it, let me know and we are able to speak about it!

That’s all for at the moment. Wishing you all a beautiful week.

Love,

Abha

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